Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 188
188 12) Hadrat Amman Jan ra said it was a " S unnat " (practice of the Holy Prophet sa ) to work with one's own hands. Hadrat Amman Jan ra encouraged self - sufficiency and disliked idleness. 13) Hadrat Amman Jan ra advised ladies to consider their husband's relatives like their own relatives. 14) Hadrat Amman Jan ra advised that it is most meritable that one's husband be one's main confidante rather than female friends. 15) Hadrat Amman Jan ra advised that when considering a potential husband, one should look at a man's piety and the habits of his family. She said that a man's employment and place of abode were less important factors to consider. 16) Hadrat Amman Jan ra took care to speak honestly and courteously with everyone, regardless of their rank or age. 17) One should try to instil the habit of obedience to parents in children. If children learn the importance of obedience, then it is reasonable to overlook their smaller acts of mischief. 18) Openly express faith in one's children. This develops their confidence and self - esteem. 19) Parents should tell their children to pray for various things from an early age, in order to develop this essential habit in them. 20) Hadrat Amman Jan ra encouraged her children to say " Salam " when they awoke and when they returned from school.