Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 187
187 wife will express this after her husband's rage has subsided. This leads to a more harmonious household and wins the Pleasure of Allah Almigh ty. 7) Hadrat Amman Jan ra advised ladies never to keep secrets from their husbands. She said that if one makes a mistake, one should openly admit it rather than attempting to conceal it. Hadrat Amman Jan ra advised her daughter , Hadrat Nawwab Mubaraka Begum ra , before her marriage that a wife should not hide things from her husband nor do anything that she felt she may have to cover up from him. She explained , “ The husband may not see what goes on but Allah Almighty does. Ultimately, when the matter is exposed , it diminishes the dignity of a woman. ” 8) Make a prompt monetary donation for any financial appeal that the Khalifah makes. Hadrat Amman Jan ra would try to fulfil these promises immediately. She remarked , “ We have no reliance on life ” and so did not wish to have any outstanding debts. 9) Try to avoid taking loans. "They are a curse , " Hadrat Amman Jan ra once advised her great - grandchildren. 10) The moral training of the eldest child is especially important. If one concentrates on developing good habits in the first child, the rest of the siblings usually copy this behaviour and benefit. 11) Emphasise the importance of telling the truth to one ’ s children. As Hadrat Khalifatul Masih IV r h related, Hadrat Amman Jan ra did not stress anything more greatly than “ developing a revulsion for deceit” in her children.