Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 251
251 correctly and clearly and lies are told. As a result, when the girls arrive here, within a short period the situation ends up in k hula or divorce, which is an e xtremely ab horrent act in the sight of God. I n spite of not being deemed h aram (forbidden) and being deemed permissible, it is still considered to be extremely abhorrent and should be avoided. Likewise, if the required information is provided beforehand ma ny instances of early k hula or divorce can be avoided. Some girls and boys wish to get married elsewhere but agree to go with the choice of their parents wherever the parents insist on them being married. These marriages break up after a short while. Paren ts should also employ q awl e s adeed and should tell the family with whom they are arranging match that they have pressured their son or daughter into the match so that the other party can make their decision judiciously. The basis of the mutual confidence that is built after marriage should also be on q awl e s adeed; on what is clear, unambiguous and truthful. Allah the Exalted knows human nature and has given upholding truth as the basic instruction for societal peace to help fulfil mutual relationships and to live in peace and wellbeing. It should be such truth which is not confusing in any way at all. It is stated that if one promises to always say what is clear and unambiguous and not go near lies and