Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 250
250 meant such and such, and what they say is also correct but everyone else has another understanding of it. It is stated here; say q awl e s adeed [the right word], and q awl e s adeed means to say what is exceptionally clear and true. As I said, some people craftily say something, both men and women, especially when their cases of conflict are being presented or their matters are brought up. [God states] I t is stated that for one, say everything truthfully when arranging matrimonial matches. If a proposal comes for a girl, her health, age, height etc. whatever it may be, should be told very clearly. All the information should be given to the boy. However, a fter receiving the information, it is the obligation of the boys not to turn up simply to look at the girl. Rather, after receiving the information, they should pray and then only go with the intention of arranging a match. If they go with this intention a pure society will be created. When matches will be looked for with righteousness , girls will not experience the anxieties that they do. Similarly, boys should very clearly tell about their education, health etc. and if they have any shortcomings, these sh ould be communicated very clearly. Because q awl e s adeed entails that everything should be clearly explained before a match is arranged. If these matters are revealed beforehand there would be no question of conflicts and quarrels escalating later on. In s ome matches where girls come from Pakistan, India or other countries, matters are not disclosed