Islamic Teachings on Ideal Family Life — Page 17
~ 17 ~ The above verse of the Holy Qur’ ā n sheds flood of light on the responsibilities of a married couple. And that is to provide peace of mind to the spouse, and have love and tenderness for the marriage partner. If the married couple really have this understanding and recognize their responsibility as husband and wife, then the whole world will be turned into a paradise. But unfortunately due to lack of knowledge, and having no comprehension about the true purpose of marriage, a peaceful home turns into an abode of misery and suffering. Selection of a Partner In selecting a life partner, it is necessary to pray to God to seek guidance from Him and follow the footsteps and guidance of the Messenger of All ā h (peace and blessings of All ā h be upon him). The Holy Prophet Mu ḥ ammad (peace and blessings of All ā h be on him) has given guidance about every stage of life. Compatibility (Kufw) In selecting a life partner compatibility is one of the most important factors. It is called Kufw in Ḥ ad ī th. Wanki ḥ ul-akf ā ’, that is, and marry your equal. (Ibn M ā jah, Abw ā bun-Nik āḥ , B ā bul-Akf ā ’) In connection with compatibility, there are many things to be considered but religion and spiritual status should be preferred. Consideration is given to social and economic position and worldly means of livelihood. In the same way, family background, education, age and health status are also considered.