Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 62
62 her daughters - in - law acccepted her advice happily. Indeed , Hadrat Choti Appa was to say that Hadrat Amman Jan ra gave her more love than any mother. This indeed was high praise. It is a standard which we as women should aspire to emulate as mothers - in - law. Indeed, it is a challenge and only possible if one ’ s love for Allah Almighty is so strong that it surpasses everything else including one ’ s own ego. Similarly , “ Hadrat Mehr Appa ” also relates that Hadrat Amman Jan ra was more of a loving mother than a mother - in - law. 48 Because of her sincere affection none of her daughters - in - law resented her guidance. Hadrat Mehr Appa relates that Hadrat Amman Jan ra liked to see her daughters - in - law in good quality and colourful clothes, wearing jewellery and “ henna ”. It is a credit to Hadrat Amman Jan ra , that her kindness and compassion for her daughters - in - law meant that they happily followed her guidance when she deemed it beneficial to offer it. For example, if Hadrat Amman Jan ra suggested that Hadrat Mehr Appa should change her clothes (if she was wearing white), she readily assented as a daughter obeys her mother's wishes, in the full knowledg e that a mother only desires the best for her daughter. Hadrat Mehr Appa has related one incident when she appreciated that Hadrat Amman Jan ra prioritised her daughter - in - law ’ s feelings above those of her son , Hadrat Musleh Mau ’ ud ra , and admonished him. This was during one winter season. Hadrat Musleh Mau ’ ud ra was having chintz quilts made for everyone in the household. Hadrat Mehr Appa disliked chintz and requested Hadrat Musleh Mau ’ ud ra to give her the money instead for the quilt. She wo uld then supplement the money in order to make one of a material she personally liked. However, as the order had already been sent the 48 Hadrat Sayyeda Bushra Begum Sahibah – the seventh wife of Hadrat Khalifatul Masih II.