Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 61
61 Hadrat Amatul Ha ’ i Begum ra asked Hadrat Amman Jan ra to take care of her children if anything happened to her. Hadrat Amman Jan ra began crying and uttered; "Why do you ask this when you are young and I am old? I can't make such promises. " Another daughter - in - law of Hadrat Amman Jan ra , “ Hadrat Choti Appa ” 47 , was only 17 years when she came to Hadrat Amman Jan's ra house as a bride. She reflected that Hadrat Amman Jan ra had a very gentle and subtle way of guiding them. Mother and daughters - in - law can often conflict over domestic chores and household management. Hadrat Amman Jan ra was the complete antithesis of a stereotypically domineering mother - in - law. She never patronised her juniors. Instead , she would wisely and gently direct Hadrat Choti Appa. She never asked; " Do you know how to cook this?", but would amicably invite Hadrat Choti Appa, " L et's go and cook this " , or " L et's go and do that. " Initially, Hadrat Amman Jan ra would do most of the cooking and Hadrat Choti Appa would watch (and in this relaxed manner would also learn). Then at a later date , Hadrat Amman Jan ra would say to her; " Go and make that dish as you did the other day ", although it had actually been Hadrat Amman Jan ra who had done so. In this benevolent man ner , Hadrat Amman Jan ra instilled confidence in her daughters - in - law, which encouraged them to learn various domestic skills from her. She did this in a friendly, maternal fashion, never uttering any harsh admonishments. In this prudent way, Hadrat Amman Jan ra also directed her daughters - in - law in other things without causing offence. She guided them how to dress and behave with their husbands. Because her manner was always kind and helpful rather tha reproachful, n 47 Hadrat Sayyedah Maryam Siddiqua Sahibah wife of Hadrat Khalifatul Masih II, and also niece of Hadrat Amman Jan ra.