Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 96
96 need for it is warrantable then they may go ahead, but they should not disgrace the poor first wife. ’ Huzoor e Anwer added: ‘Someti mes men use the excuse that the wife is disobedient and does not listen. Not only does she not respect his parents, rather she disrespects them, fights with his brothers and sisters and she incites the children against them and brings the family into disre pute by gossiping with her friends in the neighbourhood. There are very clear commandments in this regard: ِِف ََ ِتِۡ تَخَافُّوۡن َ نُّشُّوۡزَہُّن ََ فَعِظُّوۡہُّن ََ و َ اہۡجُّرُّوۡہُّن َہ و َ ال ََلَ تَبۡغُّوۡا ََ ۚ فَاِن ۡ اَطَعۡنَکُّم ۡ ف الۡمَضَاجِع ِ و َ اضۡرِبُّوۡہُّن ۡ عَلَی ِۡیۡا ا ﴿ ا کَب َا َ کَان َ عَلِی ّللَہ ؕ اِن ََ ا َۡلا ہِن ََ سَبِی ۳۵ ﴾ ‘…And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them alone in their beds and chastise them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Surely, Allah is High, Great. ’ (4:35). That is, first counsel them and if they do not listen and exceed limits and a lot of notoriety is caused in the surroundings, then strictness is allowed. However, it is not permissible to use this as an excuse to physically chastise t he wife on small trivial matters in a way that may cause injury to her. This is an extremely cruel act. The Hadith of the Holy Prophet (may peace and blessings