Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 97
97 of Allah be on him) should always be kept in view in which he said that if ever the need for phy sical chastisement arose it should be carried out to an extent that did not leave any mark on the body. Physical chastisement is not allowed on excuses like , ‘ you spoke harshly to me ’ , ‘ why did you cook bread for me in this manner ’ , why you said such and s uch in front of my parents and spoke in that way and other strange and small matters like these. Allah’s commandments should not be moulded according to your own wishes and you should fear God! Allah the Exalted goes on to say that if your wife takes an ex treme step for which you have had to chastise her then remember not to foster malice in your heart. When she reverts to completely obeying you, do not be harsh to her: ا َا َ کَان َ عَلِی ّللَہ ؕ اِن ََ ا َۡلا ََلَ تَبۡغُّوۡا عَلَیۡہِن ََ سَبِی فَاِن ۡ اَطَعۡنَکُّم ۡ ف ِۡیۡا ا ﴿ کَب ۳۵ ﴾ ‘Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Surely, Allah is High, Great. ’ (4:35). Remember if you consider yourself physically stronger than women, be mindful that Allah the Exalted is far Greater and Powerful than you. A woman h as some significance before you, in fact she is equal to you however you have no significance before God Almighty. Therefore, fear Him and desist from these actions. ’