Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 219
219 ‘I will now present some advice of Hazrat Amman Jan, Ummul - Mo’minin (mother of the believers) (may Allah be pleased with her) to you, which she gave to Hazrat Nawab Mubarakah Begum Sahiba, who was the daughter of the daughter of the Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) and Hazrat Amman Jan at the time of her marriage. I will present some of the advi ce to you. She said; ‘ never do something secretly from your husband or something that you feel the need to hide from him. Your husband may not have been watching, but God always watches, and the matter eventually becomes evident and the woman loses her reg ard and respect. ’ She continues: ‘if something happens against the wishes of the husband, do not ever hide it. You should admit it clearly, because respect lies in this alone. Concealing matters always leads to disrespect and disregard for a woman, and low ers her honour. ’ Then she said: ‘ never speak when your husband is angry. If he is angry at a child or a servant, and you know that he is in the wrong, is in a state of anger; telling a child off or saying something to someone else, and it is clear to you t hat he is wrong, do not say anything to him even then. A woman who argues with a man while he is in a state of temper , loses her respect. Often, disagreements occur due to this kind of impatience. The man loses his temper, says something to the children or to someone else, and the woman immediately reacts in the same vein and the conflict escalates. ’ She continues: if the husband