Paradise Under Your Feet — Page 53
Chapter 3: Toddler and Preschool Years 53 takes on the role of an enemy in the stress of his anger and imposes punishment far in excess of the wrong which has been done. An individual with self-respect and control over himself, who is also forbearing and dignified, has the right to correct a child to a certain extent as the occasion demands, or seek to guide the child. But a wrathful and hot-headed person who is easily provoked is not fit to be a guardian of children. I wish that, instead of punishing children, parents would have recourse to prayer, and should make it a habit to supplicate earnestly for their children, for the supplications of parents on behalf of their children meet with special acceptance. ” 3. 11 Holidays There are many holidays and celebrations observed in the USA; some are National holidays and some have a religious basis so it is important to differentiate between the holidays Muslims can celebrate and those that should not be celebrated. The reasons why we celebrate some and not others should be explained to children early on. Some are clearly not Islamic, such as Christmas and Easter, and others are not celebrated because they are not part of the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (saw). These include occasions such as birthdays, baby and bridal showers, which are also prohibited because they can become of source a Bid ’ at (innovation in the faith), which has been forbidden by the Promised Messiah (as). Islam has two important celebrations, Eid-ul-Fitr and Eid-ul-Adhia. Each one is a special day for Muslims and children should be taught the reason why they are celebrated. Although they are not generally recognized as holidays in this country, Muslims take the day off and celebrate the day by attending Eid prayers at the mosque, exchanging gifts and enjoying the company of friends and family. The day can be made further celebratory for children by involving them in decorating