Paradise Under Your Feet — Page 114
114 Sexuality Islam has a clear view on sexuality. It acknowledges the natural need of man and woman. Within the boundaries of a marriage, sexuality is sacred, beautiful and a natural human urge. Outside these boundaries, its indulgence is considered a sin. Living in a society where sexuality very often forms the basis of every kind of interaction, parents must educate their children about sexuality in order to protect them. It may be easier for mothers to tackle this with daughters and fathers to discuss with sons. If parents do not encourage this discussion, the children will probably learn from resources that will cause harm. Sex must be acknowledged as natural and as such, acting embarrassed or evasive or shutting them down if they broach the subject will deter children from asking questions and could encourage non-Islamic concepts of sexuality. Pornography should be discussed and acknowledged with the stern warning that it should be considered as an avenue that can lead to adultery. Media Teenagers can be consumed with media. Laptops, iPad, hand held games and videogame consoles are the norm in many households. While parents cannot stop the floodgates of Information Technology, they can certainly monitor it and teach children to manage it. television is not viewed traditionally anymore, rather, most teens view television shows on their smart devices. Again, a watchful eye, a familiarity with these devices and limits are necessary. There can be an electronic curfew after a specific time in the evening. Use of game consoles, personal television and room devices should be limited. However, the most important aspect is prayers and attention to Salat. Removing children from their electronic engagements for Salat times is an important lesson. Family meals and designated household chores will also add structure to their daily routine.