Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 130
is not a prerogative of parents and can lead to the breakdown in a parent - child relationship. If the Promised Messiah as , the greatest personage of this era, could display such humility and forbearance towards his children, then we have absolutely no justification but to do the same. The Promised Messiah as would often earnestly ask his daughter , Hadrat Nawwab Mubaraka Begum ra , if she had seen a dream recently. She would also volunteer any dreams she had seen. Her willingness to confide in her father illustrates the mutual trust between this parent and child. Part of the reason for this good relationship was the fact that the Promised Messiah as listened attentively and would seriously consider her dreams and tried to interpret them. He did not dismiss them as a child's trivial imaginings. The Promised Messiah as would advise his children about righteous ways and would keep a watchful eye on them but would abstain from petty criticism and constant snubbing. If he did have to explain something or gently admonish them, he ensured that he did this privately rather than in public. Hadrat Amman Jan ra followed this approach. She expressed this attitude in the wise words , "Do not say to a child “listen” all the time, but then when you do say it, then enforce what you say so the child develops the habit of obedience. However, do not bother him all the time. " 78 Hadrat Amman Jan ra would firmly emphasise grievous wrongs despite her soft nature. She conveyed to her children the gravity and abhorrence of lying and exaggeration. 78 “ Sirato Sawaneh Hadrat Amman Jan” , Prof. S. N. Saeed, p589, quoted from Misbah , December 1961 - January 1962 130