Garments for Each Other — Page 78
78 Explaining this verse Hazrat Khalifatul-Masih I (ra) said that if the families follow the commandment of the Holy Qur’an , then the traditional hostility in the Sub-continent between mother-in- law and daughter-in-law would cease. It is obvious, as the verse clearly indicates, that separate abodes for parents and siblings are permissible, and there is no harm if they go to these homes, and they can eat anything they want. Sometimes people think that if they live separately from their parents they will commit a big sin. Sometimes parents emotionally blackmail their sons in staying together and tell them that if they live separately then they deserve hell. It is a totally wrong attitude. Several times I have asked the girls about this; in front of their mothers-in-law they say that they are absolutely fine in living together with their mothers-in-law. However, if I ask them privately, then the girls say that they are forced to live with them. If somebody investigates the matter closely, then the result is that sometimes mothers-in-law behave atrociously to their daughters-in-law, and sometimes the daughters-in-law are similarly to blame. The Promised Messiah (as) came to spread love, so being an Ahmadi you should promote this love and should desist from spreading hatred in this way. Most of the people live together with their families with respect and love; however, those who cannot should not make emotional decisions. If they have enough resources and there is an option of living in separate homes, then it is better to live separately. Hazrat Khalifatul- Masih I (ra) made an important point that if it is necessary to live together then why has the Holy Qur’an mentioned the separate homes of parents in the previous verse? It is important to show kindness to the parents, and not to complain to them nor even use a word expressing disgust and only approach them with excellent speech. People should adhere to those commandments all the time. The commandment to take care of close relations on