Garments for Each Other — Page 76
76 Another malady which is destroying homes after marriage causes fights and lack of peace in homes, is that despite the capacity to live independently, young men stay at their parent s’ home along with their other siblings. If the parents are elderly, there is no one to help them and they cannot move around or help themselves, then it is the son’s duty and obligation to stay with them and serve them. However, if there are other siblings who live with them, then there is no harm in living separately. Nowadays, there are many problems that arise from these matters. It is not a noble act and they are not showing any kindness to the parents, rather they are committing more sins by doing that. Recently a tragic incident has occurred in the Jama’at in one country. There was one family living together in the same house and each brother shared two rooms with their wives and children in that house. One day, two of the sisters-in-law had an argument over their children. When their husbands came home in the evening, one of the wives mentioned to him about the whole incident, telling him how his brother and sister-in-law said something about a dispute between the children. The husband didn’t even inves tigate the matter, picked up a gun, killed his three brothers, and then killed himself. So the four brothers died in the same home at the same time. It may be that a joint family system promotes love and affection, but if it only increases hatred, then there is no commandment for it. It is then better to live separately. So, in all those matters, instead of making an emotional decision, one should use reason to make those decisions. Allah Almighty says in the Holy Qur’an in Chapter 24, verse 62: