Flowers for the Women Wearing Veils - Volume I — Page 64
! ! 64 certainly assist her. The above are Divine Commandmen ts. Ther e are other injunctions as well which relate to social behavior s. Learn Good Manners For example , [the injunction to ] treat each other pleasantl y. Do not backbite, slander, deceive others in financial dealings, a nd do not hold grudge s or rancor in your heart against anyone. Women often engage in gossip and back biting. If they hear gos sip, they do not rest until they convey it to another person. They will immediately pass on what they hear to another person, rather than stopping th e person who initially spoke ill of her brother or sister. Yet , this does not happen. Backbiting is a very bad habit. According to the Holy Qur’ān , there will be such people who will be placed in Hell solely because of this weakness. Once the Holy Prophet sa was en route and he came upon two graves. He stopped there and said, “God has informed me concerning the dead in these gra ves. They were put in Hell due to minor sins which could have been avoided. The sin of one was that he did not protect himself from the splatter of urine and the other ’s was that he would backbite. ” Backbiting is a grave sin and must be avoided at all costs. If someone speaks ill of another, you must stop them immediately and tell them to speak to the person concerned. If you do hear something, do not convey it to the person concerned so as to avoid conflict. In t he same way , we should not backbite. Do we not have e nough weaknesses of our own that we find it necessary to discuss someone else’s weaknesses? Instead of finding faults with others, find faults within yourself and make amends. Finding faults [of others] is of no benefit to you and only brings you closer to sin. Worry a bout your own S elf - R eformation If you wish to find faults , then find them with in yourself so that you may rid yourselves of them. Assess yoursel ves to see whether you are an irritable person , who readily instigate s fights with others.