Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 93
93 Most families live lovingly but those who cannot should not make emotional decisions. Rather, if they are enabled and have the facility and there is no constraint, it is better to have separate ho mes. It is a very fine point made by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih I (may Allah be pleased with him) that i f joint family arrangement was so essential , why does the Holy Qur’an mention separate homes of parents? It is indeed commanded to serve one’s parents , to look after their needs, not to be irked by anything they say, and not to even say ‘ fie ’ to them and i t is important to abide by this. A husband shoul d look after the close relatives of his wife, it is important to abide by this. This is a fundamental commandment made at the time of nikah. ’ (Friday sermon delivered on 10 November 2006 at Baitul Futuh, Lond on. Published Al Fazl International 1 December 2006) During his 2011 tour of Canada, Huzoor e Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) had a meeting with Rishta Nata Committee (department facilitating matrimonial matches) on 11 July and said: ‘Some young men here in Canada, USA and western countries get involved in inappropriate practices which lead to some failings in them. At times, t arbiyyat (spiritual and moral training) and counselling corrects them and at other times it does not. Similarly, sometimes girls have some failings. Anyhow when matches are being arranged these matters should come to the fore and both parties should employ righteousness in disclosing them so that future disputes can be avoided. ’