Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 78
78 God, this is so, but I only miss saying your name verbally (your love cannot leave my heart). ’ (Bukhari, Kitab ul Nikah Bab ghairatin - Nisa wa wajdihinna) The Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) said: ‘With the exception of indecency, all weaknesses and petulant behaviour of women should be tolerated. I find it shameful that a man should fight a woman. God has made us men, which is the consummation of His grace upon us, and we should express our gratitude for this great bounty by treating women with kindness and compassion. ’ Once the harsh nature and abusive language of a friend was mentioned to the Promised M essiah (on whom be peace) and it was said that he treats his wife harshly. The Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) found this very offensive and was very sad and displeased and said: ‘Our friends should not be like this. ’ He spoke at length on how to conso rt with women and then said: ‘As for me, I once addressed my wife in a loud voice and I felt that my tone was indicative of displeasure , though I had uttered no harsh words. Yet thereafter I sought forgiveness from God for a long time and offered supererog atory Prayers with great humility and also gave alms because I felt that my harshness towards my wife might have been occasioned by some unconscious weakness in my obedience to God Almighty.