Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 40
40 Huzoor e Anwer added: ‘As the Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) has also said that these matters are exposed when anger and rage flares up in people. Therefore anger should be controlled. Allah the Exalted likes suppression of anger and has c ommanded not to show anger. Thus e ach Ahmadi who has come in the b ai’at (oath of allegiance) of the Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) and so has pledged to try and bring a pure change in him or herself and to try and make their family relationships bette r, should try and fulfil the pledge. When I hear about conflicts where minor disagreements lead to break - ups I am always reminded of a story of a young girl who gave an excellent lesson to a couple. The young girl saw a married couple argue and fight or s peak to each other with raised voices in anger. She was so astonished to see the spectacle that she kept staring at them. The couple noticed this and asked the girl what was the matter, had she never see n her mother and father quarrel? D id they never get a ngry? The girl replied that yes they did get angry but when her mother became angry her father ke pt quiet and when her father became angry her mother kept quiet. Th us tolerance needs to be adopted. At times , trivial matter s cause break - ups very early on. O nly a few days after the wedding the couple maintain that