Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 31
31 Injustices of In - Laws Owing to Lack of both Qawl e Sadeed and Righteousness Concerning the importance of qawl e sadeed (speaking the absolute truth) and with reference to marital issues Huzoor e Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said the following as regards oppression and injustices faced by young women: ‘Another matter in this regard is the current issue of marital problems where young women communicate daily that they are enduring cruelty or unfairness of the ir in - laws or the ir husband. At times [before marriage] the young woman is not [fully] informed about the young man or is given information in such unclear and ambiguou s words that the young woman or her parents do not think much of it. However, once experienced, the situation is terrible and frightening. It is sometimes noted that in such situations, owing to decency and sympathy, the young man wishes to keep his wife b ut the mother - in - law or sister - in - law are very harsh and they make their son or brother take such harsh actions that the poor young woman is left with only two options. To either separate, or spend the rest of her life enduring cruelty. It has also come to light that at times when such harshness is perpetrated then later on , when the young woman acquires control in her capacity as the daughter - in - law, she too begins harsh and unfair treatment of the mother - in - law. And so, this vicious, satanic c ycle continu es in families that do not abide