Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 27
27 select a matrimonial match and your standard should be that of spirituality. If spirituality is used as a benchmark, both boys and girls will try and enhance their spiritual levels. If the boy is asked to look for spirituality rat her than physical beauty or wealth, it would not only give girls the impetus to enhance their spirituality alongside other religious bounties that Allah the Exalted has granted, boys will also focus on enhancing their spirituality. Level of spirituality an d religious inclination cannot be one - sided. It cannot be that a boy is embroiled in i ndecencies , vulgarities and worldliness and wishes for his future wife to be very religious. Obviously if he wishes for his future bride to be inclined to religion , he wi ll also pay attention to it. This is why nikah sermon gives so much emphasis to righteousness. The problems that arise in relationships would never happen if newly formed relationships always keep in view that they should abide by righteousness, pay each o ther’s rights and dues, overlook trivial matters, be caring towards each other’s close families, the girl should be caring towards her in - laws and the boy should also be caring towards his in - laws. The other important point is that there should be mutual c onfidence. This can only be when everything is based on honesty. قول سدید q awl e sadeed means honesty without any ambiguity; the right and true word. Y oung m e n and wom e n do not realise that after marriage their certain email contacts on the internet can create mistrust. Thus the truth should be told from the very first day and everything