Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 198
198 ‘ S imilarly the s tatus of women as mother s is illustrated as Par adise is under the feet of the mother. This means that it is through the good upbringing of a mother that children become recipients of Paradise. Men are enjoined to look after the feelings of women, as stated in: ُّ جَعَل َ لَکُّم ۡ مَِن ۡ اَنۡفُّسِکُّم ۡ اَزۡوَاجاا ّللَہ و َ ا ‘And Allah has made for you mates from among yourselves…’ (16:73) That is, they are spouses who also have sentiments like you. Men are thus advised not to gratuitously use harsh language with women on small, trivial matters. They are told that women are also human with sentiments like you and it is through them that your progeny carries on. If you needlessly aggrieve them it is possible that your own children will turn against you. And this does happen at times. Due to the harshness and oppression of husbands towards their wives, children turn against the fathers. This is when in spite of the wives being obedient and compliant, who safeguard the family home, are kind and courteous to the husband’s parent s; all matters which are a testimony that such wives are firm on righteousness, husbands still unfairly oppress them. This is how Allah the Exalted has taken care of the rights and sentiments of women. Thus men are enjoined to control themselves so that no t only will they be looking after the sentiments of their wives but also contributing to the well - being of their children. As I just said,