Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 132
132 ‘These days cases relating to conflicts between husband and wife come before me here [ Germany] and everywhere else in the world with blame lying with both men and women. Neither men have the tolerance any more that a believer should have nor women exercise tolerance. As I have drawn attention to this many times before that although mostly m en are at fault there are also instances in which the blame lies entirely with the woman or girl. Both sides are at fault which creates acrimony and homes are broken. If both sides control their emotions and have righteousness in their hearts these problem s would never arise. The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) advised such people that if they both see each other’s flaws there would also be many things they like in each other. It cannot be that they both are full of flaws. If you keep such positive attitude and adopt a sense of sacrifice, mutual love and affection will grow. Wives of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) gave testimonies that there could be no ne other like him as regards to courtesy and kindness to w ives. Thus when the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) advised something, it was not with mere words, he also proved it with his blessed model. ’ (Friday sermon delivered on 22 August 2008 at Mannheim, Germany. Published in Al Fazl Inter national 12 September 2008) On 31 October 2009 Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (may Allah be his Helper) announced two nikahs at Masjid