Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 130
130 being unfair, although in majority of the cases it is the male side that commits the excesses. Recently I asked the Ameer Sahib here to review the situation of ever - increasing [marital ] disagreements and see how much are the young men blameworthy and how much are the young women blameworthy and how much are both sets of parents responsible for further confusing the problems. The review informs us that if it is the girl’s culpability in one matter, the boys are culpable in almost three, that is, most problems are arising due to the unfairness of young men whereas in 30% to 40% of the matters it is the in - laws who create the friction. Here too the girl’s parents are less responsible. ’ Huzo or e Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) added: ‘Islam has given us the most beautiful teaching to establish our domestic life and create an air of love and affection. It is surprising and sad that people get embroiled in the webs of their big egos and become t he cause of ruining two homes, two families and many times the next generation. May Allah have mercy! The wisdom of the announcement of the Islamic nikah or the bond of marriage is that according to the commandment of Allah the Exalted the man and woman wh o are forming the union of husband and wife pledge at the time of nikah that they will try to abide by the Divine commandments read before them and will try to abide by the Quranic verses recited before them at the time of nikah so that they may adapt thei r lives according to them. The foremost advice [at the announcement of nikah]