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128 reflect and ponder over it. Both parties a re enjoined to act upon different commandments. It is regrettable, (although it is very rare ) that some young women demand from the very first day that although the marriage has taken place , yet they do not wish to live with their spouse. Upon investigation it transpires that the marriage only took place due to parental pressure and that the ir in tent was to marry someone else. Parents too should think about this and not ruin two lives in this manner. ’ (Friday sermon delivered on 10 November 2006 at Baitul Futuh, London. Published Al Fazl International 1 December 2006) Egocentric Tendencies : A Moun tain of Problems Ego is o ne of the main causes of the onset of problems between a husband and wife is big ego. Huzoor e Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) shed light on this weakness and said: ‘These days , it becomes a source of great distress to hear incident s concerning marital friction through letters or through hearing from some acquaintances. O ur aims and objectives are so lofty , yet here we are, making a mountain of a mole - hill in terms of our ego s and getting entangled in trivial matters. In the process we make the small paradise of our homes into hell and rather than play positive roles in the