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74 birthday parties is not allowed, as it becomes a source of Bid ’ at (innovations in the faith). However, children can get together by inviting their friends over at other occasions, such as an end of school gathering or Ameen ceremony, to celebrate the first completion of the Qaid ’ ah or Holy Qur ’ an. Muslims are encouraged to be hospitable, and one can come up with creative ways that will satisfy the needs of children , while en sur ing that they do n o t feel they ar e bei ng left out for religious reasons. Having an open discussion and listening earnestly to children will create a sense of self-confidence and belonging. If they are prevented from something, then they must be told of the long-term benefit of their actions and the importance of pleasing Allah. Children are surprisingly understanding if parents forbid a custom or activity with love and explain the reason. Children are very receptive to this, so we must not underestimate their inherent goodness. Health, Nutrition, and Sex Education Keeping a healthy body is an Islamic teaching. The Qur ’ an mentions eating food s , which are H alal (permissible) and T ayyab (good and wholesome). Therefore, it is very important that parents pay attention to the nutritional habit s of the entire household. In this age of feeling ‘ rushed ’ at all times, mothers often feel overwhelmed and may end up providing unhealthy meals to children. If parents follow healthy eating habits, children will do the same. Some o f the usual culprits which children may crave , are sodas, candies, and fried foods (French fries etc. ). Parents can teach children the concept of moderation and still allow them to have some of these desired items occasional ly. It is not only nutrition that one has to keep an eye on, it is also imperative that children get enough physical exercise. Many children are inclined to stay indoors and occupy themselves with the latest video games and television programs. Parents however, need to