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46 of toddlers and preschoolers sometimes feel overwhelmed and exhausted by trying to maintain a harmonious balance in the home. However, it is important to remember that this is only a stage and to enjoy the uniqueness of this stage. Toddlers need structure, routine, and stability and the best person to provide this is the mother. Therefore, wherever possible, mothers should try and be at home during this important stage of their child ’ s development. Good Manners and Good Behavior. The Holy Prophet (saw) emphasized the importance of good manners and advised that children should be taught good manners from childhood. He is reported to have given the following advice to Hazrat Imam Hasan (ra), his own grandchild, when he was having his meal. The Holy Prophet said to him: “ Eat with your right hand and from that which is in front of you. ” Hazrat Imam Hasan (ra) was only about two years old at the time. 3. 3 Hence children should be encouraged to use their right hand for eating and for accepting something when given to them. This may be difficult for left-handed children; however, they can be gently reminded why we do this. Temper tantrums may be a problem at this age. Tantrums usually arise from frustration with the challenges of the moment and are more likely to occur when the child is thirsty, hungry or tired. If a mother notices that her child is becoming frustrated or making demands that cannot be fulfilled, she can try and divert the child ’ s attention away from the problem and engage him in another activity. Mothers can also try to ward off tantrums by not allowing the child to be over- stimulated, or by avoiding situations where tantrums may occur e. g. if your child begs for toys or treats when you shop, try to steer clear of areas with these temptations. If the tantrum is rewarded with something the child wants — or the child is allowed to break rules by throwing a tantrum — the tantrums are likely to continue and become