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Chapter 7: College Years and Beyond 135 also indulging in this new trend, which is in fact a Bid ’ at (innovation). In addition, those who do not partake of these matters - and one should always assume in a good light that they shun them due to piety - are branded miserly. In particular, some families travel to Pakistan and spend excessively on parties, jewelry and clothes, with each one trying to outdo the other. All this is extravagance. As I have said earlier, these savings could be used for the poor. This expense could be used for weddings of the needy. These large amounts of money can be used for orphans and other virtuous deeds. If awareness for saving is inculcated, it can transform human beings into Ibad-ur-Rahman (grateful servants of the Gracious God). ” 7. 14 Hazrat Khalifatul-Masih V (aba) has also covered many undesirable innovations and customs relating to marriage in his Friday Sermon of November 25, 2005, which is available on www. alislam. org. HAZRAT AMMAN JAN ’ S (RA) TARBIYAT Because of her great kindness, Hazrat Amman Jan ’ s children and grandchildren were most receptive to any advice that she gave them. Amatul Haleem Sahiba has related that her great-grandmother would give advice sitting, standing and in her everyday conversation. Her pleasant manner of speech meant that she was neither didactic nor patronizing, and thus her advice had great gravity. Amatul Haleem Sahiba remembers three pieces of advice that she was given by Hazrat Amman Jan (ra): 1) She should pray for her good fortune and future. 2) She should cover her legs. 3) She should avoid debts as her grandmother warned: “ Debt is a curse. Do not take a debt and do not give loans. They are both a curse. May Allah Almighty save us from such things! ” 7. 15