Paradise Under Your Feet — Page 69
Chapter 4: Elementary School Years 69 (aba) explained that unless parents present a good example themselves, children would never abide by them if their deeds and words are not in harmony. It is important to remember that a child ’ s relationship with the Jama ’ at is based on parents ’ reactions and actions. Parents should never criticize the policies of the Jama ’ at and office holders in front of their children. Children need to have a strong connection to the community for their lifetime salvation and , for that to develop , they need to perceive the Jama ’ at positively. Parents have to be very careful of the words that they use because they have a lasting impact on a child ’ s long - term connection and relationship with the Jama ’ at. Always remember that children need to learn how to deal with many kinds of people at school and at the mosque. Parents cannot allow children to define their relationships to the Jama ’ at or the mosque based on any negative incident s. Seek advice and counseling if you are unable to deal with these situations. Modesty In his address to Lajna members at the USA Jalsa Salana 2008, Huzoor (aba) stressed the importance of modest clothing for girls and boys from a very young age. When children learn the importance and concept of modesty from an early age, they will not question the concept of Purdah when they are in their teen years. Long shirts and loose fitting pants can be found in many stores, as well as online at Islamic clothing stores. Sleeveless tops and dresses, shirts with deep necklines, shorts, Capri pants and any tight-fitting clothes must be avoided. As girls grow older, their dress will become more and more different from their peers and it is important that they are taught the Islamic teaching of dressing modestly from an early age. Modesty in clothing is important for boys also. At the elementary level, boys can wear