Malfuzat - Volume IX — Page 308
Malf uza t - English translation of Urdu Volume 9 308 condition and become such a person that people are compelled to speak out (that) you are no longer your previous self. When your condition will be like this, then not only your wife but also many others will accept your religion. It is in a hadith, 1 ٖ ٖ ْلِہ ه َِ اَل ْ خَیْرُکُم ْ خَیْرُکُم [‘The best among you is he who is best towards his wife’]. Hence, when your conduct with your wife will be good, she will herself feel embarrassed and stop opposing you, and she will know in her heart that this religion is extremely good in which there is guidance for such gentle and fine treat- ment, and then she will inevitably follow suit. I h s a n [benevo- lence] is the kind of quality through which even a dog becomes regretful, let alone a human being. The questioner submitted: ‘Your Holiness, she is never going to accept. ’ The Promised Messiah as replied: Look! You should not lose hope. When God Almighty wishes to bring about a change in a heart, He does so with [even] some small matter. One should supplicate, for a supplication emanat- ing from the heart is not wasted, and continue to advise in a kind manner but do not be harsh. Make her understand that our faith is that same Islam, and it is not a new religion. It is that same formal Prayer, that same Fasting, that same H ajj, and that same Zak a t—the only difference being what remains of these things which are the body without the soul. I desire to imbue within them a special spirit of sincerity so that the effects of these practices that do not materialise, I desire that they be car- ried out in such a way that their effects develop. 1. The best among you is the one who treats his wife the best ( Sunan at-Tirmidh i , Abw a bul-Man a qib ‘An Ras u lill a hi s allall a hu ‘alaihi wa sallam, B a bun f i Fa d li Azw a jin-Nab i s allall a hu ‘alaihi wa sallam, Hadith 3895). [Publisher]