Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 23
23 Having observed their marriage right from its initial stages he states , “As far as my memory serves me from childhood, I have never seen or heard Hadrat Masih Mau ’ ud as angry with Hadrat Amman Jan ra. I have always seen their circumstances like an ideally matched couple. Very few husbands take as much care of their wives ’ emotions as the Promised Messiah as did. ” 22 Helpers in their household were also witness to the Promised Messiah ’ s as gracious treatment of Hadrat Amman Jan ra. The Promised Messiah as taught his followers that men should overlook all weaknesses in women apart from lewdness and that it is below men to fight women. His disregard for abusive men was illustrated on one occasion when a man's cruelty towards his wife was mentioned in his pr esence, consequently he became much disturbed. He said that men should not behave in such a manner. He related that he personally had only once spoken in a raised voice to his wife (ie Hadrat Amman Jan ra ), because of his own heartfelt pain on a particular occasion. Subsequently, the Promised Messiah as deeply regretted it and then prayed to Allah Almighty for forgiveness, offered N afl (voluntary) prayers and gave some charity. Hence , we see that what most would consider a minor flaw of raising one ’ s voice, the Promised Messiah as considered a major shortcoming, indicating the extremely high standard of conduct by which he lived. An incident illustrating this kind conduct that is often related, was when Hadrat Amman Jan ra made sweet rice for the Promis ed 22 “ Sirato Sawaneh Hadrat Amman Jan ” , Prof. S. N. Saeed, p112.