Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 141
Thus, Hadrat Amman Jan ra highlighted the positive aspects of the boy without condemning him. Her perceptive comment illustrates how we should be very attentive to the language we use and should avoid criticism of others. Such a habit indeed breeds intolerance of others and can encourage pride and arrogance. It is not "pious" speech, nor is it conducive to creating a peaceful and spiritual society. Another lady has written that she became aware of how conscious Hadrat Amman Jan ra was of imbuing good manners in her family whilst visiting Hadrat Amman Jan's ra house. On the occasion, one of Hadrat Amman Jan ’ s ra granddaughters carelessly walked past the lady, so that her shawl accidentally hit her. Hadrat Amman Jan ra gave her granddaughter a harsh look and then admonished her, which caused the visiting lady great embarrassment. She felt sorry that Hadrat Amman Jan's ra granddaughter was reproached for such a minor mistake. However, it revealed to her the extent to which Hadrat Amman Jan ra was concerned about instilling good manners and social etiquettes in her family, despite the fact that a little rough jostling in a busy household was considered acceptable. Hadrat Amman Jan ra tried to instil other polite and virtuous habits in her family. For example, she taught her children to say " A ss alamo ‘ Alaikum" upon waking up and returning from school. She would also make them recite , " Bismillahir - Rahmanir - Rahim " (" In the Name of Allah Almighty, The Gracious, The Merciful ") before beginning a meal. The third moral virtue that Hudur endorsed was fortitude. This means displaying courage in the face of adversity. Hadrat Amman Jan's ra whole life was filled with great tr ials and tribulations, which she endured whilst displaying this virtue to the highest degree. 141