Hazrat Amman Jan - An Inspiration for Us All — Page 27
27 The Promised Messiah's as attachment to Hadrat Amman Jan ra is evident from all the adjustments he made in his own life for her. Indeed , personal compromise is the key to a successful relationship and this was evident from both parties in this case. Both individuals made changes. Hadrat Amman Jan ra left Delhi in a very simple manner, despite the fact that pomp and festivities at weddings were customary to society there. She did not complain at the simplicity of her nikah 24 , when the Promised Messiah as brought neither clothes nor jewellery for his bride (traditionally organised by the ladies of the groom's family), because of his family's hostility to the marriage. (He did however give money to Hadrat Mir Nasir Nawwab for Hadrat Amman Jan ra to buy whatever she wished). If one considers Hadrat Amman Jan's reception in Qadian , which did indeed evoke tears from the homesick bride, there were no family members to warmly welcome her and celebrate her arrival. Instead , Hadrat Amman Jan ra was left with no female attendants. Thi s was probably a consequence of the fact that her in - laws were all opposed to the second marriage of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad as. Even the food of his three male servants had been stopped by the family in protest at the marriage. Hadrat Amman Jan ra only had the female attendant she had brought with her (Fatima Begum), for companionship. To make matters worse, Fatima Begum did not understand the local dialect in Qadian. There was no food to welcome them and the quarters were plain and austere. Hadrat Amman Jan ra once related that there was only a bed with a scanty cloth at its foot in the room. The young bride was left to her own devices to make the best of the situation. 23 Sirato Sawaneh Hadrat Amman Jan, Prof. S. N. Saeed, p117. 24 Marriage ceremony.