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109 spite of these efforts, the relationship is still unsuccessful, then they should get separated in a dignified manner. He should part from her in the best manner, after fulfilling all her rights. This is the man’s duty and the woman’s right. Allah says that His limitless Bounties and His Mercy will create better arrangements for them afterwards. Allah will look after their needs and make them prosperous. According to one Hadith , divorce is a most unpleasant act in the sight of God. 16 However, if a relationship is based on Taqwa and all the efforts to continue the relationship fail, then Allah knows what is in their hearts. If separation is sought while inclined to Him, Allah Almighty makes bountiful arrangements for all concerned. Since Allah possesses the attribute of Al- Hakeem , the Wise, those decisions which are taken with the help of Allah are based on wisdom and are full of guidance directly from Allah Almighty. This verse also establishes the principle that matrimonial relationships should not be based on emotions. There should not be any emotions involved in making those decisions, neither from the parent’s side nor from the husband or wife’s side; they should be made after careful consideration instead. People should pray to Allah and seek the guidance of Allah Almighty, who is All-Embracing. Matches made in this manner are blessed by God and He graces them with great scope. Allah states that if decisions are made in such a manner, then He will make them prosper and expand the couple’s provisions and He will bless their relationship. I will mention another point about divorce: at times, men make matters of divorce drag on and try to prolong it. There are clear and distinct commandments regarding the rights of the wife after a marriage which has lasted a period of time, and also where there are children. When the relationship finally ends in divorce, the rights of the wife are quite clear. Haq Mehr and child-support