Garments for Each Other — Page 71
71 culprit’s lies will be exposed. Letting the issues fester creates nothing but hatred, rifts in relationships and broken homes. At times when they are not following the path of righteousness and have no fear of Allah in their hearts, men make dreadful allegations against their wives, either by coming under influence of others, or the society, or in pursuit of a second marriage. If the need for a second marriage is warrantable, then they may go ahead, but if the sole aim is to get rid of the wife and hope she may seek Khula so that if they have not yet paid the Haq Mehr they may avoid it, then it is a petty and mean ploy. In such instances the Qadha board should ensure that the Haq Mehr is paid to the women. The laws of these countries also hold them accountable for other expenses. I also want to address some general matters. Sometimes a couple buys a house, solely with the wife’s money. At the time of separation, the husband will try to take partial payment from the house to his name. Although this is legal, in the sight of Allah he is clearly committing a sin. Allah Almighty says that if he has given a big treasure to his wife, he shouldn’t take it back from her. Not only this, the husband tries to snatch all her belongings and possess them. Sometimes, a man uses the excuse that the wife is disobedient and does not want to listen to him. She does not respect his parents, but rather disrespects them and fights with his brothers and sisters. She incites the children against him and by gossiping brings disrepute to the family in neighborhood and amongst friends. There are clear commandments in such instances: