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58 the friends of one’s wife , as this only creates a lot of problems. Sometimes such incidents happen that the wife is left behind and the friend becomes the wife. The man makes a new life for himself and the first wife is left grieving. This behavior is very cruel and Islam has not given such permission. The men say Islam has given them permission to do this. There is a need for extra vigilance in these societies and men should understand their responsibilities. They should take care of that wife who has passed a long time with them, both good and bad. Now that the times are better, are you just going to reject her? This is not justice. Hazrat A’isha (ra) related that one time she said to the Holy Prophet (saw) that Allah had blessed him with very good wives, now he should not miss that old woman (Hazrat Khadijah (ra)). The Holy Prophet (saw) said: “No, Khadijah (ra) became my companion when I was alone; she became my support when I was helpless. She showered her wealth on me and Allah blessed me with children from her; she validated me when everyone called me a liar. ” 11 This was the model of our beloved Holy Prophet (saw), but I have to say with great sorrow that it grieves me to hear such matters, and I become anxious that some of us have gone in the wrong direction. These people forget the sacrifices of their wives and some become so mean that they put pressure on the wife and demand money from her parents for their business. Sometimes they demand a share in the house that the wife has bought with her own money and sometimes they threaten her. It is very surprising that sometimes men from very noble families are the ones doing this. Such people should fear Allah and reform themselves. They should be clear that if some matters are brought to the Nizam-e- Jama’at, it will never support them and has never done so in the past. They should remember that they