Garments for Each Other — Page 98
98 and bickering in front of her, and she was so surprised to see their behavior towards one another that she continued to stare at them. The couple noticed this and asked the girl what was the matter, had she never seen her mother and father fight? Did they never get angry? The girl replied that yes, they did get angry; but when her father got angry, her mother kept quiet, and when her mother got angry, her father kept quiet. This is a way to inculcate tolerance. So, both the husbands and wives should create the quality of tolerance in themselves. Sometimes, marriages break up in the beginning because of petty little matters. There are instances where only a few days after the wedding, the couple decides that there is no mutual compatibility between them, even though, the engagement had taken place a long time ago. They are not discreet about private matters concerning each other and disclose their secrets in public. Some of their close friends like to give counsel just to enjoy the situation, and some, due to their habit of giving wrong advice, give erroneous suggestions. As a consequence, some marriages break up. Giving counsel or advice is a trust. So if those couples, young or old, seek guidance from somebody, then it is the responsibility of an Ahmadi Muslim to give advice that builds a home, not one that breaks a home. Both husbands and wives can cover up the faults and shortcomings of each other if they suppress their anger and have fear of Allah in their hearts. This is the reason Allah Almighty has drawn attention in the Holy Qur’an towards the term ‘garment of righteousness ( Libaas-ut-Taqwa )’. In Surah Al A’raf, it is stated: