Garments for Each Other — Page 84
84 Qur’an states that they should not be prevented from remarrying. Rather she should be assisted, as she is mature herself, and it is fine if she decides to remarry. A woman is instructed that if she finds out that she is pregnant after a divorce, she should inform her ex-husband and should not hide it. If the marriage did not work out for some reason, it does not mean that she should take revenge and hide the pregnancy from the father of the child. Allah says that this news might soften his heart and he might return and the marriage may be saved. Allah says that husbands have a greater obligation to take them (their wives) back so that marriages can be saved and grievances can be removed. Further, close relatives are instructed not to become a hindrance. Sometimes it is the close friends and relatives who are destroying the life of the girl. Even if the girl is not objecting and ready for reconciliation, her relatives create a fuss, that as she has been divorced, they will not send her back. It becomes a matter of false honor and ego. Sometimes cases are reported to me also. I am amazed to see that sometimes parents are destroying their own daughters’ homes due to their false sense of honor. Some girls write letters to me that we, (husband and wife), want to live together, but our parents have made it an issue because of their egos. So, Allah says that the relatives should not become a hindrance in re- establishment of this union. If a man has realized his mistake, then the girl’s home should not be destroyed only due to a false sense of honor. Thus, by safeguarding the rights of women, Allah establishes the rule that women have the same rights over men as men have over them. Allah says: “ And the divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three courses; and it is not lawful for them that they conceal what Allah has created in their