Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 68
68 ‘At times one issue is raised a lot in our marital problems that come to the fore, by both men and women, and that is that one of them disparages the other’s parents or siblings. Men accuse women and women accuse men of belittling their parents, saying such and such about them and being abusive about them. This is remote from righteousness and creates discord in families. It is not a matter of only making accusations, at times these turn out to be the truth where children are provoked against their grandparents and improper words are used for each other’s close rela tives and efforts are made to turn children against them. Allah the Exalted states this is remote from righteousness and this is not righteous ness and here you are becoming far removed from righteousness. Therefore, be careful of your رحمی rehmi (familial) relations as well. These verses also draw attention to this. Th e very first verse enjoins to take care of one’s رحمی rehmi relations. Rather than only be considerate themselves, parents should also teach their children the sanctity and respect of rehmi relations. Then only can a pure society be established. Indeed, parents should take great care for the sanctity of this because the examples of parents influence children. ’ (Address delivered on 23 July 2011 at Jalsa Salana UK)