Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 187
187 ‘In case of d ivorce there is a prescribed period for women after which they are free to re - marry. Elsewhere in the Qur’an it is commanded that no hurdle should be placed in their re - marriage, in fact they should be helped in this regard. T hey are capable of making thei r own decision about marriage. However, it is commanded that if after divorce a woman realises that she is expecting a child then she should let her [ex] husband know and should not hide this fact. If her marriage had not worked out for some reason it does not mean revenge should be exacted and the father of the child is not informed that she is expectant with his child. Allah says it is possible that after being informed , the man feels compassionate and wishes to reconcile. It is stated that the husband ha s the right to accept them back and they remake their family life and are reconciled. Close relatives are also commanded not to interfere and prevent reconciliation. Sometimes close relatives of the woman discourage her. Even if she is silent or agrees to reconcile, close relative s create clamour and say that once separation/divorce has taken place they will not send her back. Big egos come into play and matter of honour is raised. Many cases are also brought to me and it is astonishing that sometimes pare nts ruin marriages of their daughters ow ing to false p ride. Some young women write that while they and their husbands wish to reconcile , egos of both sets of parents create problem! Allah the Exalted says that relatives should not become an