Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 101
101 honour. However, as Allah the Exalted and His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) have enjoined extreme forbearance and tolerance in consorting with women, I thought it necessary to advise someone as pious and fortunate as you are reg arding this counsel. Allah the Exalted states: ۚ ِ و َ عَاشِرُّوۡہُّن ََ بِالۡمَعۡرُّوۡف ‘…consort with them in kindness…’(4:20) that is, consort with your wives in a manner that has no aspect contrary to high morals and has no brutal element. Rather, conside r them your sincere partner in this transitory world and consort with them in kindness. The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said ‘The best among you is he who is best towards his wife’. So much stress has been laid to consorting with kindness that I cannot [adequately] write it in this letter. My dear, the wife is meek and fragile who has been entrusted to man by God and He watches over as to how each man treats her. Gentleness should be employed and it should be borne in mind at all t imes that my wife is a dear guest who has been entrusted to me by God Almighty and He is watching over as to how I undertake the conditions of hospitality. I am a creature of God and she is also creature of God, what control do I have over her! Man should not become blood - thirsty and should be kind to wives and should teach them faith. In fact my belief is that the first instance of testing man’s morals is his wife. If