Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 242
242 the error of their way and in order to cover their embarrassment they asked the girl , ‘do your mother and father never argue or spea k harshly with each other or do not get upset? ’ The girl replied, ‘ Yes, if my father is angry my mother stays quiet and if my mother is angry my father stays quiet and the disagreement does not go any further in our home. ’ Such is the good influence it can have on children. Keep your eyes shut to each other’s shortcomings and keep your eyes open to each other’s good qu alities. After all, each person, be it a man or a woman, has good qualities as well as shortcomings. I have seen that men are usually the first to start spotting the shortcomings of women. When women start looking for shortcomings in response, they go so f ar ahead that there is no turning back. Moreover, one should not even look at what is forbidden and which dishonours one’s righteousness. Domestic problems can damage mutual trust but if purity of sight is maintained then this damage does not occur and pro blems go away. Then, do not let your heart be desirous of what is forbidden, keep it filled with fear of Allah the Exalted. This results in problems never arising and Satan does not ever enter one’s heart stealthily to create discord in families. Satan do es not only signify a person whose way of entry may be evident and is detected. Each bad company, each bad friend who will try to destroy your home, who will try and incite you against your husband, against the mother - in - law, against the sister - in - law,