Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 125
125 Some Causes of Acrimony in Relationships Marriage Not of One’s Choice R esentment s build up in some marriages that go ahead as compromises. Huzoor e Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said in this regard: ‘Some girls get married on the suggestion of their parents and do n ot have the courage to say the truth at the outset. They take certain actions after getting married causing lack of confidence between husband and wife which lead s on to disagreements and conflicts. Other times girls get married to someone in Pakistan with out any scrutiny or investigation on Jama’at level and it is later alleged that Jama’at did not help. Some young men sponsor wives [from Pakistan] but are very unfair to them and matters end up in divorce. The situation is frightening from both sides and t he Jama’at needs to be concerned about this. Sometimes girls acknowledge after the marriage has taken place that they do not like the match and they married only because their parents said so. Some b oys too acknowledge this after marriage and even they do not have the courage [to say this before the marriage] or perhaps they find out later that their spouse is involved elsewhere and likes someone else. If they speak of their preference before they marry, at least the lives of two f amilies can be saved from