Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 90
90 also serve them. However, if there are other siblings who live with the parents, then there is no harm in living separately. These days a lot of difficulties are created because of this. If living in joint family situation only increase s one to commit sins then it cannot be a virtue or a means to serve parents. Recently a most distressing incident took place in the Jama’at in a country. All siblings were living together in a joint family arrangement and each had two rooms. There was so me disagreement between two daughters - in - law because of children. When the husband of one of them came home in the evening, she riled him by telling tales of how his brother and his wife had said things about something the children had fought over. The ma n was so enraged that he picked up a gun and killed all three of his brothers and then committed suicide. Thus, due to such a trivial reason there were four deaths in one family home at one time! If the love and affection of living in joint family arrange ment for the sake of increasing lov e and affection [in reality ] increases mutual acrimony , then there is no [Divine] commandment regarding this and it is better to live separately. Decisions in every matter should be based on astuteness and not emotions. Expounding the verse :