Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 71
71 ‘I will give one example from the countless examples of the Holy Prophet’s (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) kindness towards the relations and friends of his wives. It is narrated that when the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) heard the voice of Halah, sister of Hazrat Khadija, he used to stand up to greet her and welcome her cheerfully saying, ‘Khadija’s sister Halah is here. ’ When an animal was slaughtered at home, it was his custom to have some of the meat sent to friends of Hazrat Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her). (Sahih Muslim, Kitabul Fad ha’il, Babu Mi n fadha’ile Khadeeja) Let me clarify something here, some things are brought to attention and for this reason I shall clarify them. Because men and women have started to mix more in society, no one should assume from this t hat permission has been given to men to sit in assemblies of women and they are free to sit with the friends of their wives. Being considerate is something completely different and it is another thing to forge friendships. This creates inappropriate situat ions. There are many instances where the wife is pushed aside and her friend takes on the place of the wife. The man once again can resume his worldly affairs but the poor first wife is left crying! This is patently unfair and Islam has certainly not allow ed this. They say, we are permitted to marry (more than once) ! Here, in these societies, special care should be taken. Try and understand your responsibilities. Take care of the wife who has lived with you during