Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 26
26 ‘I will now announce a few nikahs. A lot is said about human psyc hology in the world today but even prominent expert psychologists could not come close to the way the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) understood human psychology. Keeping in view this understanding of psychology , the Holy Prophet (pea ce and blessings of Allah be on him) chose Quranic verses to be read at the time of nikah which emphasise righteousness. These verses also emphasise the importance of maintaining close family connections and emphasise honesty and also stress the importance of being mindful of what you have sent for the morrow. If these values were instilled in the newly married and in the relatives of the newly married, families on both sides, mother, father, sister and brother, the issues that usually cause cracks in relat ionships would never surface. These issues cause break ups and pain for both families. Sometimes they escalate so much that people get embroiled in court cases and then matters are brought to me and are a source of intense pain. Thus w hen settling a marri age, the girl and the boy and those involved in the arranging of the marriage should see that it is not done merely for worldly reasons, not simply for one’s own satisfaction and fulfilment of desires. Neither should matches be made to receive dowry from t he girl’s family nor should a girl’s physical beauty be prioritised when seeking a match, nor should the girl’s side opt for a match based on the boy’s large salary and wealth. The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said that the world h as different standards to