Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 257
257 lack of virtues and distance from righteousness. When I reviewed the situation of the last three years here in the UK, I was astonished that the rate of divorce and k hula has gone up app roximately 3% and 20% of all marriages are ending in divorce. This is a worrying situation and we need to pay a great deal of attention to it. When looked into, the reasons behind this are the ones I mentioned earlier; use of abusive language between husba nd and wife, bad morals and a lack of tolerance. There is also the interference of parents, siblings and relatives; be it the siblings and parents of the man or the woman. Interference in each other’s relations worsens the situation. Although it is enjoine d to fulfil r ehmi relations, parents and siblings are also commanded not to create conflict and to let the husband and wife live in peace. If this were practiced, relationships would never break so rapidly. Then there is also the factor of not being truthf ul. Boys come here from abroad to get married, girls here are educated. It is asserted that the boy is a graduate but is later found out that he has even failed his Matric and the relationship breaks. Similarly, shortcomings in girls are found out. So trut h should always be employed. In some cases the situation is so bad that I now want to say to older women that one of the complaints of relationships breaking is that mother s - in - law and father s - in - law hit their daughter s - in - law. Not only do they get the hus bands to hit them but they also strike them, which is not warrantable in any way.