Domestic Issues and Their Solutions — Page 220
220 responds to your intrusion with anger, you will be greatly humiliated. Later, once the husband has cooled down, you certainly may gently point out his error to him – rectification is also obligatory. ’ Men and women should also remember the principle mentioned in the Hadith that relates that when angered, if you are standing up, sit down or perform wudu’ (ablution); it cools off the anger. When I receive some complaints I say to men that there is no shortage of water in this country. Turn on your shower or tap and put your head under it – your anger will cool off. Anyhow, Hazrat Amman Jan (may Allah be pleased with her) further counse ls her daughter to consider the relatives and the children of the relatives of one’s husband as one’s own – as was mentioned in the Hadith, and I have also mentioned this with reference to the Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) that he said consider each other’s close familial relations as your own. Hazrat Amman Jan (may Allah be pleased with her) continues: do not think ill of anyone even if they do something bad to you, wish everyone well from the heart. If someone does something wrong to you, let them, but you should not let ill - thinking of others enter your heart – do not even retaliate with your actions. Observe then how God will always bless you. She would always counsel young people and say, as you are going to a new home, do not say anything