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159 first to start spottin g shortcomings of women. However, when women start looking for shortcomings in response, they go so far ahead that there is no turning back. Moreover, one should not even look at what is forbidden in faith and that which dishonours one’s righteousness. Dom estic problems can damage mutual trust but if purity of sight is maintained then this damage does not occur and problems go away. Do not let your heart be desirous of what is forbidden, keep it fille d with fear of Allah the Exalted. This results in problem s never arising and Satan does not steal into our hearts like a thief and cause discord in our homes. Indeed Satan is not like a person whose comings and goings are clear to us. Each bad company, each bad friend who will try to destroy your home, who will try and incite you against your husband, against your mother - in - law, against your sister - in - law, or will try to incite a husband against his wife, or one who will say something trivial that will create anxiety in one’s heart, is a Satan. Thus, it is the ob ligation of each believing man and woman to be heedful of such satans. The foundation of the union of marriage is strengthened once mutual trust is established. If trust is lost then the very same palace that was erected with the promise of love and affect ion is razed to the ground; in fact it turns to ruins. ’ (Address delivered on 23 July 2011 at Jalsa Salana UK. Published in Al Fazl International 4 May 2012)