Blessings of Khilafat — Page 100
100 guilty of any misconduct—you must not reject him simply due to the pretext of his financial position. The effort to look for someone who is earning a lot of money and is very rich by someone who himself is only earning a hundred rupees per month results in great trouble, because having failed to find their desired match among Ahmad i s, they tend to marry their girls to non-Ahmad i s. Abstaining from such a wrong and ridiculous way of searching for suitable partners, every Ahmadi should look for a person of his own status so that the girls do not suffer, and to prevent them from having to be married to non-Ahmad i s. There had also been a tradition among some respected families to arrange for the everyday expenditure of both the husband [their son-in-law] and the wife once they found that the husband, though not so fortunate and well-off, was righteous and God-fearing. It would indeed be commendable if some were able to follow the same tradition even today. Should that seem impossible to follow, one should look for a person of his own standing and position. As I have stated earlier, I consider the worldly status of a person to be an important consideration when it comes to parity, and as I have just mentioned, I do believe that it should be given due consideration. The second question which is to be discussed under the subject of parity is the family background. Family background too has to be considered to some extent. In fact, it is a natural consideration. For instance, if a person of a noble family gives away his daughter to a man who has converted into Islam from the sweeper community, the daughter would consider her husband to be of low-birth. Their relationship will result in a permanent discord between them, and the very purpose of marriage will remain unfulfilled. Or should there be some other flaw making a wife consider her husband to be